Whats next is on him....

[Jayce]

Hi, kiddo. All along I've thought your H might be making really good money because he works so far from home. More than he would earn working in town. I wondered if the original plan was to do this to build some financial security for the future. Also, somewhere I got the impression you do a lot w/your kids and don't work full time. Divorce would be a huge financial hit and it would be difficult to work full time with your health issue and support yourself and kids. My sitch was a bit similar when my kids were the age yours. Altho I worked full time, we had to have both incomes. Back then SSM/SSW wasn't an issue, tho.

Long distance marriages are tough even with the best relationships. Saying he likes being home shows he enjoys family life and is probably lonely when he's away. You may be building financial security, but at the cost of getting older without each other. How do the other guy's wives cope with that? A bit like military wives I'm guessing. Perhaps telling him one more time that you want & need him to want & need you & you can't live this way indefinitely, then let it drop. After your back is better, you may be in a better frame of mind with that stress gone, and can tackle H again. Take care of yourself. You will be better able to deal with him later.
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Jayce