- her parents found this out and her father was STEAMING when he got back home apparently (SIL told me this) and lectured her about that over the phone (VALIDATES THE ODD) - her dad told me he would just completely cut her off and that he hopes I get custody of the kids if we do end up D (VALIDATES THE ODD SITUATION W/GUY NAMED ABOVE)
What did you mean with the validates? That I am not just imagining things?
And about the people in her town: they apparently are telling her that I am controlling, which she then accused me of. I told her that I agree with that as far as her going out by herself during the first 3 years of the boys' being there. I was denying myself the privilege of going out by myself, so I didn't think it was fair for her to. However, I realized almost 2 years ago that we both do need that freedom and have been easy about that since then (starting before she even moved out).
Bottom line is, from the DB standpoint, that my changes have been noticed and they have been noticed to be consistent (she first mentioned them in her email from Feb, and now again). But her conclusion from that is that I am apparently happier WITHOUT her than WITH her (this was also mentioned in her Feb email and again now). How do I get this out of her head!?? I'd like her to come back home and try me. See for yourself! After she started talking about not being able to move back in because she feels like the enemy and that I would just turn back to crap, she would "ruin" me, I've mentioned that my changes are permanent. That's all I can say, and I don't know what else would convince her.
I sincerely hope that she will have the sense to move out of that town where she can do some unbiased thinking for a change. These people have been talking to her for the past year and a half now.
