Firstly - the "money" thing has been put to bed two months ago.
I was under the impression that there were still issues regarding the money. Isn't that what some of the arguing is all about? I don't understand about you having to go to the police department to sign an "agreement" about paying her. Is this enforced by the law? Anyway, you are doing much talk for a man who has put to bed the money thing and I believe it is b/c you are very worried about it.
About blocking the messages.....was it your wife's messages you were blocking? If so, why?
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I just had to put my foot down in the only way I could. Draw a line in the sand.
Please explain what you did to set a boundary. I am having a hard time understanding. I am confused.
You are correct in not talking to her over dog biscuits b/c that is redicules when there are too many other things to worry over. I never think it is "cute" to fight with a spouse. Fighting is never a good thing. When couples are S, it is easy to find lots of faults with each other and hard to not get into an argument. When your W tries to argue, tell her you are not going to discuss it now. If she continues to argue, then say, "I am going to hang up now and we will talk another time...bye" and then hang up. Never be rude to your W but tell her you will not fight. Tell her good-bye and then disconnect, hang-up or lay phone down (however you say it...lol).
I wonder if you are mixed up about some of the DB principles b/c you seem to swing too far from one extreme to the other. I think you are working hard to do what different people suggest. You get very excited and mentally pumped up to make a firm stand....but I'm wondering if you fully comprehend some of the techniques or maybe it is that we are not explaining ourselves very well..... In no way am I trying to sound insulting to you, by saying this. I see you eager to do what is right, but do you understand how to do these techniques? If you have not received the DR book as of yet, then please do not make drastric actions until you can read the entire book. If you act to fast on something that is not the correct way, then you may do more harm than can be undone later. I am concerned about this.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
In no way am I trying to sound insulting to you, by saying this. I see you eager to do what is right, but do you understand how to do these techniques? If you have not received the DR book as of yet, then please do not make drastric actions until you can read the entire book. If you act to fast on something that is not the correct way, then you may do more harm than can be undone later. I am concerned about this.
