The thing is you are NOT giving her an ultimatum. You are giving her the choice to do what she wants to do. But YOU don't have to let it control what YOU want to do. That's what a boundary is.
The thing is that she acted nice to you and you fell for it big time. So when she comes back after having sex with multiple men, are you going to let her do what she wants if she just says that you "look good"?
This then becomes a matter of taking care of the kids' needs. Do you really want them to have this as their example?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
