Haven't chimed in on your sitch as it a bit outside my experience (think I have a WAW and not MLC, but who knows). Anyway, I am following your thread and will be praying for you.
Haven't chimed in on your sitch as it a bit outside my experience (think I have a WAW and not MLC, but who knows). Anyway, I am following your thread and will be praying for you.
Sorry if any typos - in the car on my blackberry.
Good luck.
In the early stages.....ya gotta treat them the same.....
Jimbo - I think what is really bothering me about those points I keep bringing up...is that I want OTHER people to see the MLC crazy. Not at the expense of a relationship w/our kids. I just hate that his mask is so good. I want some cracks to appear. I don't want people thinking "Wow, they must not have had a good M behind closed doors." I know, I know, it shouldn't matter...
Have you ever had to deal with one of those people who, for whatever reason, had to tell a lie...and then had to keep telling other lies to support the first one? And still more lies to support the others?
Can you imagine how much work that must take? To keep all the lies straight, and remember who you've told what, when?
It's a LOT of work. Too much to keep up with everybody for the rest of your life....
The cracks in the mask will appear eventually.
Count on it.
Originally Posted By: Mach1
Hope,
One by one, those masks will dissapear.
They are the mask to cover up all the things that are eating away at him.....
And NOT to make you spin.....but the life that you had right before the bomb was a mask too...
These masks will not last, and have to be removed by the owner or else the warranty is void.
Trust YOU right now......and that YOU are doing what needs to be done for you.....
This is his path to walk....
Yeah...what Mach said!
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
Have you ever had to deal with one of those people who, for whatever reason, had to tell a lie...and then had to keep telling other lies to support the first one? And still more lies to support the others?
Yes, I've actually been one of those people. Lied to cover my @ss many times when I was a teenager...oh wait, that's the age H is acting!
Giving it my all - all opinions welcome - thanks for posting. Hope things are going better in your neck of the woods.
Mach - I'll stick in MLC. I know I have mentioned this here before, but...I was told very distinctly as I was praying when this all started that I would be given answers w/in 30 days. During that timeframe I was pointed in the direction of what happens to adult children of narcissistic families of origin. Then, after reading MLC archives, I realized that it also tied in w/MLC. I have to go with it.
Me 36, Him 33 M 11yrs, T 15yrs S 8, D 7 ILYBINILWY - 1/09 H moves out 10/09 D to be final SOON I HOPE!
