desperate...

[1853dave]

Geez...when it rains, it pours... Sorry to hear of the latest news...

Perhaps the judge doesn't want you "harassing" her...but it seems odd that you can meet in public. I don't understand the crazy crap they pull on people. I had a TPO, followed by false allegations, a CFI got involved, it cost me (and therefore my family) THOUSANDS of dollars. In the end, they found nothing wrong with us - we are just a couple with marital problems. Really angered me that the attorneys let things degrade to the point that it did. They were laughing all the way to the bank, I'm sure.

The system is SERIOUSLY flawed. The ones who can change it are just making too much money off of it, so where's the incentive? I feel it is criminal in nature, self protected by the screwed up "legal" system. Like we say in flying, "just because it's legal, doesn't make it right."

Just hang in there - everyone here says it will take time - I know it stinks, but let it happen, and try to take care of yourself. I'm not in a great sitch now, but things are a LOT better than they were all winter long. It takes time. Take the time to do something for yourself, as hard as it is to focus on things. I know, I've been there (and still go there at times) but things will be better at some point.

Does your W know about the surgery? Would she be willing to drop the RO so that you could communicate more? It is widely known that the RO harms MUCH more than it helps. This is clearly documented - just look it up in the internet, or other sources. It is also clear that the ones who follow the RO are law abiding citizens - decent people, and the ones who violate it are typical dirbags.

Hang in there - I know it doesn't help much, but I survived my turn in the barrel, and so can you.