The way I look at it is that I have two options -- either kicking her out so she sees the consequences (which some people have suggested) or working on me and allowing her to live in the same house so that she can see the new "mature", better me (which others have suggested).
SMM,
There is nothing "mature" about condoning immoral and disrespectful behavior. And I doubt your wife views it as such (more on that below) -- she probably just thinks you're not willing to stand up to her and fight for your marriage.
And I disagree with you as well on this:
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Believe me, she knows how I feel about this already from previous trips and some conversations we had last week.
I see some version of this statement posted very often; I've even used something similar myself a few years ago ("my wife knows how I feel (about our SSM) ..."). But just as WE say on here to not judge them by their WORDS, but rather by their ACTIONS, our wayward spouses do the same thing with us.
And I don't think your ACTIONS in the past HAVE indicated to her what you are, and are not, willing to put up with.
