Detaching doesn't mean you stop thinking about your S. It simply means you don't put your life on hold while you wait for the outcome you are praying for. There is a lot of work out there that I know God would like me to do for myself, my kids, as well as for others. I have a job that must go on. I have a home that must be kept up with. I have kids that need a strong father there for them. I need to do things with them. I have my own spiritual growth that I cannot neglect.
Life must continue while you continue to pray for your prodigal to return. That is where I am having to push my way through but at the same time not lose hope and give up.
FaithfulH didn't give up. He detached lovingly. He continued to do what he needed and made the changes within himself that he needed. But he did not give up and did not quit praying for his M to be restored. He kept faith no matter how bleak it looked. He continued to stand in the gap for his M while doing everything else he needed to do.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...