The thing is, Kevin, you have NOT detached and you have not even started to even try and detach. That is the crux of the issue that we are all trying to point out to you on a daily/hourly basis.
You still wondering where your W is going and what she is doing is not being detached. You still have emotional breakdowns of some sort when ya'll exchange the kids is not detaching. You are still thinking (if not saying it to her) about MC so you are not detached. You constantly saying she doesnt care about you or notice anything is not being detached. Just the other day you said how much better thing would be if you and your W would have been together to help each other out when your D was sick. Again, not detached. You are a single father right now but your first thought was your W and not how to find a solution as a single dad. That is not detachement.
So you say you *are* detacing when in fact you have not even started to. And that is where the solutions based C'ing comes in. Standing for your marriage is fine if that is your choice and doing so from a religious standpoint is fine if you so choose but you do need to add another element in the mix that will provide you with structured solutions and goals that have nothing to do with religion. That was the entire point of the C you saw or AA.
I still stand by my observation that you have chosen religion as your foundation so you can avoid the solution aspect of building a new you. There is a way to incorporate the two and have a far better outcome for YOU.
And I dont think its an unreasonable question to ask your priest... if he supports you standing from your marriage from a religious standpoint why he is not supporting you to seek out solution based counseling for YOU as an individual? IMO religion is a wonderful life foundation but does not provide you with the solution based help you need - IMO, once again, its avoidance on your part.
