W is having Affair -- may leave soon -- thread 2

[SavingMyMarriage]

Thanks for the feedback... I purposely stayed away from talking about the trip -- I don't want to know anything about what she did or how her trip went. I just asked her about the flight...

Believe me, she knows how I feel about this already from previous trips and some conversations we had last week. She knows how much I'm against this, how this will affect our lives and that she is breaking our commitment (and vows) she made in front of me, God, and our familiy and friends. If she already knows how I feel, I don't know how re-expressing my feelings to her will help my situation...

I don't know if she was concerned...maybe a bad choice of words on my part. I wrote that since I thought it was odd that she was asking how my weekend was and what I did... It was kind of an insult to me that she even asked that since she knows how I felt about her going away with the OM.

She knows this isn't fine with me and I believe she knows what she is doing is wrong, but she is doing it anyway. I'm acting "as if" and working on myself. The way I look at it is that I have two options -- either kicking her out so she sees the consequences (which some people have suggested) or working on me and allowing her to live in the same house so that she can see the new "mature", better me (which others have suggested). I really don't know how all this will end up, but this "addiction" or "euphoria" she is experiencing with the OM will wear off sooner or later (so I'm told). I believe I have a better shot at all this while she is living with me versus someplace else. Although I don't want her to walk all over me either so I want to be careful with how I handle this situation as well.

It appears she might be moving out next weekend or the following weekend anyway, so the above might be a moot point.

Since my mother-in-law discovered that something was going on, my MIL shared with me that my W and her are having dinner on Wed night to talk. I've heard from others that it won't matter what my MIL will tell her, but at least my W will get a third party perspective on things versus my perspective...