Thank you for those comments. I think my ex fits into all of them. Quite sad isn't it. I think the ML'ers deep seeded issues prevent them from seeing anything clearly.
My ex I believe thought I would eventually betray him. He had to betray me before I betrayed him.
He was terrified of divorce. He followed a self-fulfilling prophecy. He always thought I would divorce him. He made it happen by the affair and all the abuse.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
