One of the things that took me a long time to get was that hindsight is really 20/20.
Anything I did or didnt do in the marriage was never done or not done with malice or intent to hurt of cause harm. I really did do the best I could with the tools I had at the time.
Do I wish I did things differently? Absolutely, without a doubt. Should he have done things differently? No question. But, I loved him with all my heart.
I really serves no purpose to keep revisiting the things we wished we did or didnt do except to use them to help us change.
