Well, apparently my wife and I reached the same point at about the same time. Our "difference of opinion" Sunday on reconciliation (and, I mind-read, my telling her I will not move out in Dec. so she can "live in the house one more time") precipitated this email I received this morning:
Subject: Warm Regard: Hi, Gardener,
To clarify my position about our difference of opinion, I feel that leaving our marriage is the healthiest decision I've made in quite some time and stepping back into any relationship would only continue to jeopardize my health. So, I will move ahead to resolve and finalize the mediation with a goal of completing everything legal as soon as possible. I'll be sending you the mediators' information before the end of this week. Please pick one or the other – it doesn't matter to me.
My wishes are for future health and happiness – for both of us.
Interesting, too, since after having the "Now me" exchange with IC yesterday, I also said to him, "I'm done."
So, my planned reply which I will send later today will be along the lines of:
Wife,
I understand.
I will look into getting the house on the market this week with the same goal.
Always, Gardener
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
