So, and this is unbelievable!!, we went thru the previous conversation sentence by sentence...discussing how each comment fed the next, etc. Normally confronting him about words that come out of his own mouth makes him totally CRAZY. But this time he wanted to discuss it. So we did, and I apologized for some of what I said, and stood by some other things I said. He apologized and said he realizes he has to change the way he talks to us. So it was a good conversation. I still don't trust him because he can think that way today and if I let my guard down he'll try to annhilate me later.
This is big that he took your feedback. You coached him now praise him for the way he handled that. Let him know how much it means to you and you realise that it is probably difficult for him to hear some of these things. You are leading/tough loving him.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
