back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[Doingitright]

Steady. Thanks. Already talked to him. Walked throgh options of what can be covered. W has a lot of "bad H" things she is holding in the bank. I think she needs them to come out of savings so W can get it off her chest. It can be a H bashing session for all I care. Offered to let W go alone but said we will both go.
I read your thread. It is kind of irony as detaching is almost exactly what W has done. Take care of herself. Concentrate on things for her. Not focus on things around her unless the benefit W. Eyes on yourself.

I am struggling with adding more to my plate. I really like my life the way it is. I have freinds that I do stuff with. We all work and travel for work often so we only get together a couple times a month. W says I should do it more. But I don't want to and niether do my freinds. Now their W's are all sahm's. They all hang together at the pool etc. They all want to go away often. They are home all day while the H's are not. I want to enjoy the home I pay for. This seems to the rub with quite a few of the M's of my nieghborhood freinds.

Quite the quandry. A freind is going through something similar to my sitch but it is not as far as mine. His W and mine are BFF.

The morning was odd. I am detaching and going about my business. More detached after reading your thread. W did odd things but I did not acknowledge or give creadence. Will give more details later. Good luck in your day.