I'm curious, how does it make you feel when he looks at your phone and in your bag? As much as I am an open book and have nothing to hide, some days I get really aggravated with it all. For several reasons, one-I have nothing to hide so what good does it do for him to keep looking and finding NOTHING? 2-if he is done, what does it matter? 3-if I did that to him, I would be the wicked witch of the west. And what is worse, I give all receipts, bills, etc to him, and he says "oh i don't need to see what you are doing" which of course I don't believe. Some days, especially when I read about it being done to others, I wonder if anyone else is as bugged about it as I am.
Sorry, left over H interaction crap from yesterday. You know, I do well, but sometimes, it is just easier if he isn't around at all. Also had a lightbulb moment this am. H never learned how to share. I just always thought he was a little possessive about his stuff, but it isn't that. He just simply doesn't know how to share with others and I will share everything I have which is why I have always been bothered when he called our stuff, (bed, car, tv, etc) his. It is something I would always remind him of. And now I also understand one of the reasons he started doing his own laundry again. It isn't to give me a break or because I shouldn't have to do it anymore or even because he is trying to be independent. It is simply because this way it doesn't get confused with S's. (They wear the same size). So if anyone has any thoughts on how to deal with the spoiled child who won't share his toys, I would appreciate it. LOL. I guess that is my dilemma of the week to pray about.
Here is another puzzler, that may actually fall under the heading of projection but who knows? When they start, calmly, expressing thoughts about things they have done in the past, things you have done, ways you behave that could maybe be altered because it makes them feel a certain way, does that mean they are peeking out, trying to manipulate in a different way, or is it just more bs?
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
