I'm not sure what's going to get this woman/child on the right track! She just knows everything!
H doesn't appear to be holding a major grudge against her. He just thinks she's only thinking about herself, and hopefully she'll come around, before it's too late. We can't do anymore. We did college visits, assisted in getting her into a good university, offered to send her there, etc... She ruined the opportunity (for now) by not wanting to do the work to go there. So, she's not going away, but going to a local Junior College, and, we thought by "supporting" her in moving out, it would be a launch into doing work to earn rewards....
My plan in the am is to explain to her calmly that we haven't had a nice vacation in a few years. It is hard to do now, due to the economy, time available, etc... So, I was really excited to book this mini-vacation for all of us, since it had activities we would all enjoy.
The trip started out w/a tad of disappointment, as D18 slept almost the entire six hours (due to the fact that she had been up until 6am), and when she was awake she was barking orders at her brothers or whining about something. We had a fun time during the weekend activities, except, even during these activities that she was enjoying and I planned, she was making annoyed/sarcastic comments to me.
Then, fast forward to the ride home, and the arrival at home.
To say the least, it hurt my feelings that she was not appreciative of the efforts, and that she could be so mean to me.
And, lastly, H, who RARELY corrects her, let alone yells at her, has, all along thought that we bickered because mom's and daughters do that. He didn't really hear me when I would tell him why I was reacting to her in a certain way. After hearing her talk to me (w/out her knowing he was listening), he was shocked, and incredibly disappointed, and now understood my pain and suffering in dealing with her.
So, we'll see how it goes.
I haven't slept one minute all night. Between D18, being in Lake Geneva and remembering all of the good times, having this "friends" M w/my H, etc... I'm shocked I haven't had some sort of brain/heart explosion.
It's hard because I'm pretty positive, and a joyful person.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
