Slowly getting better?? - WAW advice still needed.

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Sam:

Wow, you are carrying a heavy load! It sounds like a good idea that W closed her shop, and will be working on design jobs from home.

- W got operated and is recovering now (SERIOUS?)
- W getting driven to and from the hospital by a guy from her town (he stayed overnight at the hospital). I have been suspicious of him before, but never found anything that didn't jive as he's taking care of the rental buildings in town including her shop and she's had a lot of trouble with the utilities, plumbing, etc... so she did have to interface with him. But I am now REALLY questioning his motives. (ODD, CHECK IT OUT)
- her parents found this out and her father was STEAMING when he got back home apparently (SIL told me this) and lectured her about that over the phone (VALIDATES THE ODD)
- her dad told me he would just completely cut her off and that he hopes I get custody of the kids if we do end up D (VALIDATES THE ODD SITUATION W/GUY NAMED ABOVE)
- StepS13 was gonna move back down with W and I, then not, then yes again, W getting lectured by his father (POOR KID, BACK AND FORTH)
- W getting unsollicited advice from people around her town how I (and her xH) are controlling her and encouraging her to stand up for herself (THEY DON'T KNOW SITCH)
- W still thinks she can just move wherever I will move for the rest of our lives, so we don't have to separate the kids (DILLUSIONAL!)
- W says that I am doing so well now, I seem so happy now without her. It's awesome to see me being so much better (her words here!) (WAY TO GO, SAM!)
- W says that if she would move back in, I would just turn back to crap. (SHE CAN'T MOVE BACK IN W/OUT DEALING W/HER CRAP)
- Told her I am the way I am now, and I don't want to be like I was before, not for this R, nor for a future R, the changes are permanent. (INSPIRATIONAL!)
- W told me that I am just trying to hold on and she doesn't think her "feelings" will change, it's not gonna just turn on like a switch. (FEELINGS CHANGE, INCLUDING YOURS...)
- Told her I am not afraid to move on, start dating, or be alone for a while, but that I think I owe it to the boys to try every single little thing that could work to avoid them getting hurt (and pointed to the example of how StepS13 is now hurting and torn between his dad and her) (GOOD MAN)
- Told her that I think we haven't really worked on our R/M in the past year, that it will take work to get "feelings" back. That if we don't talk about and work on things on a regular basis (only had 3 discussions in the past year) then nothing will change. (SHE'S HAD ENOUGH SPACE.)

You're on the cusp of something! I'll pray for you!