Read through most of your thread. Your H sounds a lot like mine!Particularly with the strong MIL. Mine isn`t NPD(at least I`d never considered that she was before this....better go have a rethink...) but she is an incredibly forceful,interfering woman. Since she became involved in our M, (H told her....I wouldn`t have in a million years... and like you keep my mouth zipped...)H has gotten so so so much angrier.
Yeah, me pulling back GALing my ass off made him snippier too. I honestly can look back from the very first weeks of my detaching(Mach says I wasn`t fully implementing LRT, but I was trying!Honest Mach!)and see week by week little crazy things he`d do to try and upset my balance.
Yeah, it felt like I`m a skittle he`s the ball for a long time. Got some weight anchoring me now though.
I found for me that the snippyness built up til H would have a crazy blow up out of the blue. That sometimes dislodged my anchor though the most recent one hasn`t
You anchor is your GAL stuff. Exactly what you`re doing right now. Your anchor is knowing the part in the dance that H wants you to play-(H just wants to see me get angry or upset or both)and just NOT doing it.
How much childhood stuff is your H playing out on you? Probably all of it. My H`s most recent explosion happened straight after a phone call from MIL. Coincidence, eh?Didn`t even hang up the phone just came straight after me to attack me.
Like the sound of that therapist in Hawaii. My H went to two mediocre Counsellors who did more harm than good. I`ve found a brill therapist for me. Because we`ve all got stuff that we need to sort out and this is my time for me too!
