[quote] To answer your question, H has said that he will not be the one to end this marriage - that ball is in my court. However, he is not prepared to fight for it either, so I guess there is no real initiative for me to do either one. He tells me that he won't wait forever, but then he says he won't end the marriage so I really don't know where he is on everything.
I know this is a very old thread, but I was wondering- what would "fighting for the marriage" look like? My WAW told me basically her A was my fault because I "chose to ignore the signs that something was wrong" when she did not come home as often as she could have from a long term temporary job assignment. As far as I was concerned, I was trusting her and trusting in our marriage... I'd never had reason to doubt her, so the fact that she was starting an EA never entered my mind!
I have wondered if she wanted me to charge in, demand to know what was wrong, and force her to stop the EA before it got physical.
Would, coulda, shoulda.... :-(
Me: 50; Wife: 48 Gay; civil union in NJ no kids M: 15 years, together 17 Bomb (OW) 2/09 (EA 3mos/PA 3mos) ILYBINILWY W out of house, w/OW, in separation talks, nothing filed
