I agree with the glacial pace! It's going so very slowly!! But I would say the two most encouraging things are the fact that she's decided to close the shop (even against the advice of everyone in her town) and she's mentioned moving into a house where the boys can play outside with the dog. Of course, I'd rather have her move home to work on things, but if she leaves that town to live somewhere else, without the shop needing constant attention, that will allow her more "thinking" time to actually realize the consequences of what she's doing. I realize I am pretty optimistic here, but the whole situation with the operation, her family stepping in, with StepS13 over the weekend was all pretty intense for her.
Additionally, our discussions over the past couple of days have hit home on a few things that she needs to know: - if we D, we will NOT live right down the road from each other the rest of our lives. Sooner or later, one of us will move and this will cause the boys to have to choose who to stay with. StepS13 now has 3 parents to visit! - I am not desperately trying to "win her back", I am not afraid to start over, I know I now have a lot more knowledge about R and M that will allow me to make the next R/M much better. W can be the one I have my next R/M with if she wants. - I am suspicious of the guy that brought her to the hospital. Her parents and her sister have called her and expressed the same. She claims he's really just a friend who's trying to help and "he's 18 yrs older than me for crying out loud" (her words).
All of these discussions were very calm and with dry eyes from my end, while she's getting emotional at times. But I've just decided that I don't care if it really comes to head right now. I am not hiding anything, not sugarcoating anything, just saying how it is... again... It's gotta sink in sooner or later... just hope it will be before my patience runs out and it's running thin by now.
It's going so very slowly!! But I would say the two most encouraging things are the fact that she's decided to close the shop (even against the advice of everyone in her town) and she's mentioned moving into a house where the boys can play outside with the dog. Of course, I'd rather have her move home to work on things, but if she leaves that town to live somewhere else, without the shop needing constant attention, that will allow her more "thinking" time to actually realize the consequences of what she's doing. I realize I am pretty optimistic here, but the whole situation with the operation, her family stepping in, with StepS13 over the weekend was all pretty intense for her.