totally messed things up!!

[The Wifey]

My attitude since day 1 has been that I won't stand in your way if you have to have it, but it is not my responsibility to make it fast, easy or cheap. Said with the nicest smile and in a calm, low tone. Staring straight in his eyes.

I also told him that he needed to tell me what he wanted to put into a separation agreement. No lie, he wanted to walk away, give me the house, and have me leave his paycheck and retirement untouched.

I smiled and said, ever so sweetly, do you really think that is what I will agree to?

Dear in the headlights look, no answer, dropped the subject, and no rush.

Nothing is stopped, of course, but nothing has gone forward.

That is of course unique to my sitch. Obviously would be different if he were bent on getting it done now and pushing.