New Post for Wifey

[The Wifey]

Quick Journal:

I discovered that somehow H has the idea I can't get along without his help. Kind of an interesting dynamic since he claimed to not want to have to be responsible for anything. And he wants to be my friend and be there when I need him. Hmmmm.

I gave this a lot of thought. Way back in the early days of our R (and I am talking in high school and into college, then the early years of M) he liked being needed. I became pretty independent and certainly the S has taught me to be more so. I've learned how to do things I never would have imagined.

But back to my thoughts on this. H was absolutely livid the last time I mowed the steepest part of our lawn. It's too steep, I worry you are going to get hurt, you are so small you don't have the counterweight to keep the mower from rolling over, AND YOU PROMISED you wouldn't. Not quite at a yell, but certainly a decibel or two over normal conversation.

Aha moment. He doesn't want to Have to be responsible, but he wants to help. So I tried an experiment. I went against my grain of I'll show him I can do everything without him and asked him for help. Something dumb. The tank on the grill ran out today. So, I sent him a text that the next time he is over could he do me a favor? I don't know how to take off the tank or put on a new one.

I know perfectly well that I could go on the internet and figure it out and I could do it.

Anyhow, he answered my text in like 5 seconds. Couldn't do it today but I promise I will come after work tomorrow and get it done for you. Hmmmm. Scratching my head here.

I respond that it didn't have to be tomorrow, no rush, just the next time he is over. H also apologized for NOT mowing the steep parts of the lawn over the weekend. (I did not mow them this week.) I told him it had been wet over the weekend to just let it go for this week.

Am I crazy here, or do you guys think I should start asking for help now and then? I thought guys preferred strong, confident women that wanted, but didn't need them?

Does he want to rescue the damsel in distress or am I out of my mind on this?