Hey Mat... sorry to keep you hanging. Any chance you are online now?
Happy to know that you are alive! Sorry I missed you the other day, NNP! I have moved and have been busy training in a new job. I don't have all my stuff yet, so go to a "internet cafe" to get online. Still wondering how you are. My life is simple right now. I have an air mattress, 2 lawn chairs, a card table,and a microwave. I am actually quite content!!! Now I need to start meeting new people!
Hi Mat... I would like to say I am still standing for my marriage, but I finally understand there is no marriage to stand for. H left the marriage a looooong time ago (to be honest I don't think he was ever REALLY in it). I can face that now, I couldn't before.
I am ready to move forward with life. It will not be the life I thought I wanted, but what I have/had is not that life either.
First step is to disentangle our finances (bet ot is saying "about freaking time") I have an appt with a financial counselor next week. Someone to whom I can lay it all out and get advice on my options and how to navigate through the D.
Then I file. I am almost anxious to get this part started. I know it is not going to be easy, but from everyone here I know there is life beyond what I have now.
I am going through Divorce Care now and these sessions are invaluable. One thing they say is "healthy attracts healthy and sick attracts sick". It won't be soon, but when I am ready to attract someone I want to be healthy!
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Oh, I am so happy to hear from you, NNP. You sound good in spite of the circumstances. How wise you are to do Divorce Care before the actual divorce. I never joined a group although I bought the tapes. I found it helpful that my emotions were normal. I am trying to get myself back on track.....moving out of state was my first step to really separate from my exH. We have a cordial relationship which is good, but I need to completely separate from him before I can think of "moving on". He still is confused....actually told me he still wasn't completely happy and he wasn't 100% sure he had done the right thing. My D18 talked about his relationship with his gf for the first time. It sounds like he is a bit hen-pecked. Haha. He actually even asked if I thought I'd ever re-marry him down the road if he decided he'd made a mistake. That is certainly not healthy for ME!
How are your boys?
Sorry I did a bit of a high-jack, NNP. Good luck with the financial stuff. Keep in touch please. Mat
no Mat do not apologise... I am so happy to get an update from you. I did not know you moved. Good for you. It is never too late to do the Divorce Care. Our facilitator's wife went through it 7 years after her D.
My boys are teenagers... need I say more? No really they are the best boys I could ask for or want. They are having difficulty with what is going on, but I am keeping a very close eye on them and they talk to me and others so all three of us are trying to be as healthy as possible.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Thank you, I begged him to read that 5 years ago and several times since, all to no avail. The original title of the thread is really a moot point, but thanks for the input. Maybe someone else will find it useful
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
