You have come to the right place for support, encouragement, and insight on how to navigate best through this painful time we are all going through (or have gone through). You have received some good advice already (Snodderly has been a veritable godmother to many of us, myself included! Love ya, Snodderly!!)
Everyone will tell you that it is of upmost importance for you to "detach", and they are absolutely right! But, it's also true that that is easier said than done (and I was one of the worst in getting there! ). So, I will just add to that advice to always remember that there are no "pat" answers, and above all, try to remember to be kind to yourself!! DB is NOT about saving your marriage, but about saving yourself! The fact that the "techniques" given are also your best chance of saving your M, is actually just a good side effect of saving yourself.
Take care!!
((((((hugs)))))))
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TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
). So, I will just add to that advice to always remember that there are no "pat" answers, and above all, try to remember to be kind to yourself!! DB is NOT about saving your marriage, but about saving yourself! The fact that the "techniques" given are also your best chance of saving your M, is actually just a good side effect of saving yourself. 
