First Timer

[wolverine1997]

I have counseled families that have gone through infidelities, lying, possible drug abuse, and other more common problems, but I have never dealt with anything similar to what my wife and I have gone through.

In each of the situations where I have offered counsel the problems that the couples faced were brought on by either one or both of the partners. They created their own problems. One or both cheated, lied, refused to live up to their husbandly or wifely responsibilities, etc. In our situation we had little to no control over what happened.

One of the things that makes our situation so hard is that this is so personal that it is very difficult to talk to most people about. Added to that, there is so much more to our problem that I just can't bring myself to mention to anyone. Without my faith I truly believe that I would have gone crazy or done something that go against my Bible beliefs.

I know that my wife has been traumatized very much between the assualt and my son's autism and is not making rational decisions in her life. But unless she decides to leave or gives me Biblical reasons allowing me to do so I want to continue to try to work things out. I love her very much and don't want o abandon her in her time of need. But I also know that I can't live the rest of my life waiting for her to get help or regain her senses. So I am going to work hard to improve myself and give her the time and space that she needs and then at some point this will all come to a head.

But until that happens I have to try to avoid getting her upset and giving her reasons that justify her behavior in her mind. This is hard because my actions are often blown out of proportion or taken out of context. But hey, I'm no quitter and I have the best help available on my side.