Bingo. This is hitting the NAIL ON THE HEAD Trixi:
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My H knows that I love him deeply and feels very confident that he will always be able to weasel his way back into my heart. Divorcing doesn't really make him worry that he'll lose me because I think he believes that if he changes his mind, I will still be here.
One time I thought I was so brave to tell my H "I'm not losing you, you're losing me!"
His reply? "I'm not losing you! I'll always know you're out there!"
It took me a long time to figure this one out and several older posters, especially Gucci, wholeheartedly believe that until the man realizes he's REALLY lost you, they won't even start considering the consequences of their actions.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
