D18 was complaining (in the car), starting Sunday am, about WHEN we were going to get home. Finally, after the third inquiry that were progressively getting more edgy, I told her "D18, I know what you're getting at (wants to get home to go out w/her friends), and we are not going to rush a fun weekend. I told you we would be home late Sunday evening, or even Monday."
Another inquiry awhile later... "D18, your Dad and I work lots of hours all week, and we are not interested in 'going through a drive-thru,' just because you want to get home to go out. When we can get off of work, and get out of town, we are going to enjoy ourselves, and provide a fun time for you and your bros."
We go out to dinner in Lake Geneva, at a superb restaurant we used to go to all the time... Very nice. Very good. Takes awhile.
In the meantime, H is kind of joking w/her, saying he was considering going to Sam's Club on the way home to do our shopping for the month, and she's giggling a bit w/him about it.
When we get home, we pull into the driveway, and she goes to get in her car to go home to her apartment. I ask her to please help unload H's car. She does so, and doesn't say goodbye, or thank you or anything, just goes to leave again. H calls her back in... She comes in to talk to me. I say, "D17, listen, I know you want to go home, but you can't just up and leave everyone. We have all of this stuff to unpack." (And, btw, you're welcome for an awesome weekend!) She (not thinking H is in earshot) starts to swear at me, saying she doesn't live here anymore and doesn't have to do anymore of this sh#t for me, etc... I tell her that I just want her help getting all of the bedding and towels we used to the laundry room, and the food unpacked into the refrigerator. She goes on and on on her rant. I tell her to remember this tone and bratty behavior when she needs something this week. Again, more, brattier rant. H walks in and hears her, and says, "D18, you and I get along great, but after hearing you with your mom, and (before) thinking this is just a bickering problem between the two of you, I've changed my mind. Get the F*ck out of the house until you can be appreciative, respectful, and kind." Now, for those of you who dont know this, H is D18's step-dad, but they have been together since she was three, and they are very close. She considers him her Dad, and she has him wrapped around her finger. (He feels bad her Dad treated her so bad, so rarely gets involved in discipline, talking stern to her, etc...)
So, that was the end of our weekend together. Isn't that cute? H says she's just in a stage, at an age, etc... where the only person she cares about is herself, so we shouldn't offer anything beyond quality time if she chooses to partake. No more getting her things for her apartment, no more helping w/deposits on this or that, no more etc... Let her need us and our support.
So, today I txt'd her and told her that I got her cell phone bill (we had switched over to her when she moved out), and it's due in a few days, and if she chooses not to be a respectful and contributing member of our family, then she needs to pay me back for the deposit I put down to get it in her name. And, that her auto insurance is only good through Friday, so we need her (title transfer) paperwork signed on her car by then (car in her name now so we don't get sued if she crashes it and doesn't have insurance).
She txt'd back saying she would be over in the am.
OY!
To be continued...
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
