Listen, I got the bomb over two years ago, and I still need reminding (right Mach?). I have been with h for over 30 years, his MLC probably started about 7 years ago. He has always been very controlling.
I still hear in your posts that you take the blame for some of his anger. Uh uh, no way. He is responsible for how he responds and acts, not you. He has stuff he has to deal with, so do you. Let him own his, you own yours.
This is hard stuff, really hard. You have to look deep inside yourself and sometimes you are not going to like some of the things you find. But that is ok. Those are the things you need to focus on.
We have all done things in our marriage that we should have done differently. But we did the best we could with the tools we had at the time.
So, dont keep blaming yourself. Just figure out the things you want to change and start to change them. It isnt going to happen overnight.
