I think my boundary is: "as her unconditional friend she asked me if I trusted our marriage therapist because she did. Therefore, since our therapist said these kinds of actions prevent growth, yes, she is going to do what she is going to do, but it's important that we are both aware of our actions vs. working on ourselves regardless of whether with each other or someone else." She has said as munch, i.e. "I know that I can't be in a relationship with you or anyone else without working on my own issues."
