You can ask, but she's not going to tell you. Or she's going to get real defensive and blame you for driving her actions. That you're controlling and don't understand that it's over, etc.
Take your pick.
I would maybe relate to her what your boundary is about not having the stink of another man on her in your home. Well maybe not that harsh.
Seriously what is your boundary. If you feel like she's going to disrespect it, then you have to do what YOU have to do. You can't control her, just your actions.
You can either not say anything and let it go (which might be best), or tell her what YOU will not tolerate. Tell her she can do whatever she wants, as it is HER choice, and tell her that YOU are not willing to let YOUR children be exposed to such behavior and that if she does this, she will find her things in the garage. Say all this very politely and matter of factly.
Get your self-respect back from her. You can't control her, but you can get your balls back from her.
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