He isn't used to that many people he said...(We make 3 and his family is 6)...
We are complete opposites...
It has always been his way or the highway...
We got into a row the other night because he was trying to "father" my kids...
No can do..They have a Father...
For now that is my job and no one elses'...
He doesn't like the fact that my oldest doesn't really talk to anyone (he has always been this way) and brother is all about being in your face hearing what you have to say, telling you what you should do and then getting pissed if you don't follow his way...
No worries...
I am looking for a place right now...
Just feels like I am breaking though I won't allow a fully broken Serenity to emerge.
He knows the sitch and doesn't agree with how I am handling it...Thinks I should go and file for divorce and be done with it once and for all...
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
We have 2 rooms to ourselves and we have all gone on to do our own thing but apparently a hair is caught in his ass today...
I don't answer to anyone...Haven't in a long time and not going to start...
Don't tell me how to live my life...
Don't tell me what decisions I need to make...
He thinks I am only thinking of myself when I took the stand for my marriage...
What is that teaching my kids if I allow hubby to come home - That I am a doormat and anyone can walk all over me...
That is how he sees it...
I am an idiot for even going along with this...
Who in the hell thinks it is ok that their husband is living in another town, sticking it in some other woman and I have the gall to stand by and "hope" he comes to his senses? I should basically be ashamed of myself and put my boys first before my marriage and happiness...What am I teaching them in the long run?
That is what I got my friend...
Don't lose sleep over me, I will get through this as well...
Somehow...
Someway...
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Mac is asking you to stop these thoughts. Far to many. Far to quickly. Not good.
Serenity take one thing at a time.
Top of the pile is to get you guys fixed up for the night. The rest of it will keep on a low simmer (cooking again!) until morning.
Find out what gave him the flea in the but. He's your brother and has to be worried in one way or another about your situation. Otherwise he wouldn't be trying to be a father figure to your kids. He wouldn't be trying to get you to drop the M. He IS concerned and he's showing it.
At the risk of feeling your wrath - I'm going to ask you to go to him. Shut the flip up and let him talk to you. I'm convinced he's got your best interests at heart. Just listen to what he says. Listen. Don't judge. Don't lash out. Don't agree. Just listen. Gotta find a way to give you some time and breathing space.
Will you do that for me? For you and the kids?
Serenity - please do it for your friend all the way round the other side of the planet.
Gonna read a book and keep pressing the refresh button.
Bad enough that we got kicked out of our house but I am pretty sure my brother just kicked us out of his as well...
Please anyone tell me could I fall any further before someone extends a hand?
How much is one person supposed to take?
Serenity, I'm afraid I can't offer you much in the way of "advice" right now, but I can certainly empathize with you and let you know I care. I'm having a horrible week myself (found out my unmarried D20 is pregnant, the guy's a deadbeat, and she has no health insurance and mine won't cover a pregnancy of a dependent child), my other daughter's boyfriend is facing the possibility of losing custody of his 4 year old son, my income tax refund check keeps getting delayed and I can't get to Chicago to visit my ailing parents, and my wife and I -- while great friends -- still have ongoing issues that threaten our marriage.
I too have been left wondering "Why ME??" this week, and "How much more am I expected to TAKE???"
I'm sorry I haven't been around much these past few days, but I've been up to my eyeballs in medical and insurance issues, and trying to be there for my wife and daughters.
As you know, I don't blow smoke up people's butts, just to make them feel better. I'm going to call 'em like I see 'em.
This:
Originally Posted By: Serenity13
I don't answer to anyone...Haven't in a long time and not going to start...
Don't tell me how to live my life...
Don't tell me what decisions I need to make...
. . . doesn't jibe with this:
Quote:
I need a place for me and the boys...
The truth is, you DO need his help right now, and you ARE answerable to others. I've had to learn this the hard way myself -- I am a VERY prideful and stubborn man, and I detest having to ask other people for help, or relying on people, but sometimes you gotta suck it up for the sake of your kids.
It's also how other people are blessed -- by helping you.
I'm with Mac -- talk to him and secure the place to live for you and your kids. Compromise with him.
