Does anyone have any thoughts on the best time I should tell H that I'm getting an apartment? I'm looking at a place on Thursday, and considering moving around Sept. 1. Our son leaves for college in the middle of August.
And I'm still fighting the fear of standing up to him by insisting the swingers profiles come down. I figure I would tell him those have to go when I tell him I'm moving. Does anyone have any other suggestions? An just why am I so scared to stand up to him? What's he gonna do- say the marriage is over? It already is... I'm still hesitating about that final step and I have to get over it, and I don't know how.
It would be easier if these arguments/discussions were occurring frequently, instead they go every couple months or so. (I hate to say this, sometimes I wish that he would just take a swing at me. It would be easier having that visible, concrete evidence of unacceptable behavior.) As I mentioned earlier, this is the period when I start letting my guard down. We haven't had any discussions about our issues, and he's acting like everything is normal, such as when he asked if we were throwing a Halloween party this year. At the moment, our marriage feels normal, but I know the issues are festering- they WILL come up again. I don't know which way to turn at times like this.
