But what if he's right? One weakness, it seems to me, of the DB paradigm is that it presupposes fault. Obviously you did "something" wrong, you LBS you, else WAS wouldn't have split.
So we become hypersensitized to find fault in ourselves -- to facilitate The Changes That Must Be. But what if there really isn't anything wrong? What if WAS is -- plain as day -- just an a**hole?
Gucci has written a number of very good posts about this same thought. Do we, in preaching "introspection," go too far and might it be better to come from a confident position of "I'm OK with me." Correcting some specific behaviors, yes (what Harley calls "Love Busters"), but not going so far down that path into "There Must Be Something Wrong With Me" land.
I'm a little to the "left" of him on that, but not by much -- I think there's a lot of truth in it.
