Yep I think our W's are looking for that "in love" feeling. The only problem is that they spent so much time detaching to get out of that "in love" feeling with us, that they don't realize they have to WORK on getting that feeling back.
It's their choice to leave, yet when they think they want it to work, they expect it just to happen.
Yeah, my W just seems to have been waiting to see if the "feelings" come back and they haven't she informed me yesterday. But she's not interested in hanging out and going on dates anymore because those "haven't helped". Things seem to be coming to a head right now, but W has been making some changes like closing her shop and wanting to move into a house from her apartment that should allow her to think a little more about things. She's been completely preoccupied with her own life and work to think much about "us" for the past 2 years.
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Orich's case is the perfect example. His W tells him she doesn't want him to be mad at her, etc. How controlling can that be? Same thing happened to me. But they turn around and call the LBS controlling. Crazy talk I tell you.
My W has told me this also. Then she's called me controlling just yesterday??? That she doesn't have a say in things??
BTW, sandi, if you wouldn't mind looking at the latest developments in my sitch. I'm running out of time and drive to continue this.
