back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[Doingitright]

More questions...
Do you keep saying ILY to keep the connection alive? I stopped the first time and she called me on it. Not so sure his time.
Do you stop doing the kiss goodnight and goodmorning? This stayed throughout the dark times.
Do you stop the calls in the afternoon to ask how things are going so she can vent on how the kids are on her last raw nerve? I don't want W to use that against me later...
Do you try and start conversations like normal adults or leave it uncomfortably quite with no interaction?
Also, what do you do when it seems like W is competing with you for the kids attention and hearts? Doing or giving them whatever they want. Candy, games, toys from the store?
Do I keep doing things with my W that we have always done?
I ask these questions because no matter how my times I have the books it just makes sense in these cases. This seems to the last chance at anything. And it is seeming like the slimest chance at this point.