So the birthday weekend was pretty damn good. He planned a great weekend for us and even took me on an impromptu trip to go gamble. We lost our butts, however, we had a ball. We had a couple of "bang ups". I knew he was lying to me about the kind of contact with OW. I called him out on it and there was an arguement. He again threatened me with D. I said "Do it. Call your lawyer tomorrow and get it over with. I will sign once I get everything I deserve...." He asked what does that mean? I said just start the process.
Later he's lovey dovey and I told him when we were both calm "I know you have something you still need to work through with OW. That's not my issue, my issue is you still lie to me about it all." He said he didn't but I guess he understood. I added "The more you tell me the truth, the more I can trust you and vice versa, the fewer questions there will be because it's going to be replaced with confidence." He seemed to understand that.
Last Friday, the morning of my birthday I went to get coffee with a woman who 6 years ago saved her marriage. Her H, a doctor had actually bought another house with his OW. Long story short, she ends up saving the marriage. She says her marriage is stronger now than ever before. So the fight, the anguish she says is worth it. You never forget, you just move forward. It was interesting. Inspiring even.
