(((Kat))) You bring up a really interesting point that I struggle with as I read the boards. There are people that take a much firmer line than I do. However, when I first got to these boards a very wise DBer said to me 'do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?' and I really took that on board. For me, being 'right' used to be very important, but it got me no where in my sitch. I really looked at myself and discovered that my 'right' wasn't always the best thing anyway. By the time I discovered DBing, he had basically told me to get lost (in nicer terms ) after I pursued him and pressured him for 6 months. I had no power to be giving ultimatums or kind of demands. However, I decided that I still wanted h in my life and I was going to have to wait until it was on his terms or it wasn't going to happen at all. It has required all the patience I can muster and he is not at the point where I can say anything about ow. I am biding my time there, the time will (I hope) come where I have more power but that time isn't now, as much as I wish it was.
I would doubt very much that ow knows of our relationship. Jody said to me that as he doesn't mention her to me, I could be pretty sure he wasn't mentioning me to her. He never talks about her to me she is never mentioned. He talks in 'I' not 'we'. She must know we have contact because of the house but I don't know the extent. I have a feeling that may serve me well in time though.
Sorry for the long answers... you asked me some excellent questions and really made me to think which is great, thank you
(((OD))) lovely of you to visit my thread. I really enjoyed the weather on Saturday. It was a nice break from this annoying rain! I'm feeling like I want to buy winter clothes again, in July that just isn't right. I envy your holiday purchases!!
(((T))) I've been thinking about you lately and wondering how you've been getting on. Are you busy (I wrote 'busty' then!!) at your festivals this year?
It would be so fabulous if you ever decide to visit London. We could go to so much music stuff together! The thing I like about Bikram is that they tend to do a lot of the same poses and they aren't too challenging. I want to build up to more complex things in time, also the heat makes me more flexible. I've always been a little afraid of other styles... perhaps you can reassure me on those
(((Michelle))) Thanks, that dress the queen wore was pretty eye-catching eh! lol!
(((bonny))) It is that tipping over into romance that is hard, although apparently according to Jody it is getting from stage 1 (reducing negative emotions) to stage 2 (friendship) that is the hardest. I think though as h had ow it is hard to get him past into that romance stage whilst she is in the picture. Still, I can't control that
) after I pursued him and pressured him for 6 months. I had no power to be giving ultimatums or kind of demands. However, I decided that I still wanted h in my life and I was going to have to wait until it was on his terms or it wasn't going to happen at all. It has required all the patience I can muster and he is not at the point where I can say anything about ow. I am biding my time there, the time will (I hope) come where I have more power but that time isn't now, as much as I wish it was.
