I'm so sorry that you are in the same boat as I am as far as the depression and everything.
And you are so right, I really feel like my H family even though I was told that I was the best thing that ever happended to him just a year ago. I guess with all the lies he is making up they think they are giving him good advice. I don't know.
I did go out this weekend, unwilling and let me tell you I had a terrible time. Made it look like I was having an okay time but couldn't wait to get home and sit and cry.
I've been in counseling since Nov. and so has our D12 but it doesn't seem to be working. I think I should be way better than I am at this point it is going to be 9 months.
And with this no contact thing with our D12 since June (he sent her a grad card for elementary school). He never wrote back to her when she sent him his card and a the letter.
At my age I'm really really scared. Already went through a D 15yrs. ago and have a S18 from that marriage and my H has 2 boys from his previous and really thought that we were settled down now for good. Boy, was I wrong! See he is 35 and I'm 41 so I don't know maybe he wanted or wants someone younger or it is the depression or maybe a MLC. I have NO clue whatsoever anymore.
Never thought he would stop contact with the kids especially with his only D that he called his baby girl all of the time. Maybe he is mad at her for telling her counselor that she was worried because he was drinking and driving with her in the car.....I don't know.
I know this doesn't help the pain but you are so young and I wish that I wasn't this old and would be able to start all over but it seems like being this age is a lot tougher. No one to hang out with well, go out with. Everyone of my friends is married and really don't go out. They have younger children etc.
But I heard over the weekend that more people have seen him and he is still being seen by himself all the time so I guess there isn't anyone in his life yet.
Just miss my H so much. And Jon, tells me he will come out of the clouds eventually but I'm starting to think that maybe he just won't at all. Only child support, not paying anything towards the bills (loans, etc. in both of our names) and he makes 3 times the amount I do.
If there is anything I can do to help you I will. You will be in my prayers! I know the pain you are going through. You will have your good days too so keep that in mind.
