Golfgirl, you`ve been hit a hammer blow and somewhat recently(May, I think?) so you`re still reeling.
Things to do for now:Get Divorce Busting and/or the Divorce Remedy books asap. Get yourself a good therapist to talk to. Search around until you find someone who will listen and challenge you and you feel comfortable with. Don`t talk to too many people about your sitch(well, not n the real world anyway). Its great to have a trusting friend, especially one who`s BTDT.All your friends will egg your on to D and "why are you putting up with all that" but you need to be very sure that is what you want before you jump aboard the D ship.
Do not involve H`s family.
You`ve got to detach yourself.I`m no expert at this but the Last Resort Technique is in Michelles DB and Dr books and it`ll give you ways for pulling back and looking after you.
Check the MCL resources and the LRT resources on this board.
Mind yourself. Don`t plead or beg and get angry anymore with your H.
