My father always said there were only two things married people fight about: money and sex. If you are already arguing about one, don't start in on the other.
...and one more: children
Just thinking a bit: Hendrix talks about the "Power Struggle" in marriage - the fight to define the R and your joint lives in the way you want it to be defined.
Money, Sex and Children seem to be the three control points that influence one's whole life and joint R.
Money controls comfort, security, enjoyment, status, outward success, and how you prioritize those to meet your own beliefs and goals. It comes out as fights over budgets.
Sex is a representation of Love, affection, intimacy, and the whole ball of expectations you each have for the primary R in your life. It comes out as fights over frequency, etc.
Children is a proxy for each of your feelings about family, morals, values, religion, etc as you each try imbue your children with your views and priorities. It comes out as fights over discipline.
Since everyone has different "truths" about the world and believes their views and priorities are correct (I know I do ), it is no wonder we end up fighting about these 3 things.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
), it is no wonder we end up fighting about these 3 things.
