Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

Thanks Sara, I'll tread gently.

I see the disagreement between you and your H clearly - it sounds the same as ours.

The only difference is that my W has recently started working again, and is now complaining about the workload from paying the bills, etc. I think she would be glad for me to do it going forward - as long as I don't try to go back and check into what she did in the past.

As for my procrastinating, not paying bills on time, etc. (Just like your H...) this is not something I need to do for my W, this is something I need to fix for me. I've never liked this about myself. Besides, if we do end up D'd, then I'll have to handle this for myself in the future, so I'd better learn now.



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Journaling:
Angry with W today - not because of our Sitch or our R, but just from a childcare crisis that she dumped in my lap today - exacerbated by way she brushed off my frustration with the impact on my workday - typical lack of communication stuff.

It did cause me to start down the mental thought road of "How inconsiderate, how selfish, just like her mother (brushing off any impact her actions have on others)...do I really want to be married to her" -- Stop!! That's not going to get me anywhere! Besides, I am really just frustrated because the problem hit me at the same time as an unplanned (an partially self inflicted) "crisis" at work.

Little things like this seem to spin me up right now because I am already generally angry and feeling taken advantage of.

I'm calm now.

Don't Rock the boat.