but 20 minutes later see the call and call back like a puppy dog. Realize now that was a mistake but I was so happy to feel needed for a bit I forgot DB and should not have called. Well, will try not to beat myself up over it and move on and try harder again next time...
It's ok. Just don't be so eager to call back that quickly again. The only time I wouldrespond promptly (meaning like you would have before everything hit the fan) is if it involves D8 - kids have to come first. I usually try not to respond to any txts/im's/voicemails from W for at least 45 min's - usually an hour. Some people recommend longer than that.
Apart from calling her back when you did, how was the conversation? How did you handle that?
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I asked her what did she get, and her reply was 'It's a surprise for everyone' and we'll see tomorrow after she picks it up.
What is that supposed to mean? Eh, I don't care, I just reply that it's not really a surprise that's going to be for me,
It doesn't matter what it means. You know that. Your reply sounds needy, unfortunately. Next time, just respond ok. And leave it at that. And not a dismissive, whatever kind of "ok" but the kind that says you can tell me when you want to.
I understand your feelings, but the important thing is to learn how to control your response to them. Initially, you will have the feelings, but you can train yourself to act as if they don't bother you - and you show they don't bother you by not reacting to them and in the way you respond and act around W. The message you want to convey by your actions and attitude is of a slightly disinterested friend.
