Divorce Pending

[Trixi]

So it looks like there must be a second WAS Script out there! LOL
Okay- see if any of these sound familiar--
*It's just a piece of paper; true love doesn't die
*Nothing (meaning divorce) is forever
*We can always remarry later
*I need a clean slate
*Don't you want to know that I am here because I *want* to be and not because I *have* to be?
*Who knows? Even if we each find other people in the meantime, in a couple years we could see each other in a coffee shop, start dating again and remarry.

I am starting to think that this is the script for the spouse that knows there is no real reason to divorce and they feel bad for being shmucks. That, and they don't want a big fight on their hands.

It would be tempting to respond to "It's this or it's over" with "It's this AND it's over."

My H knows that I love him deeply and feels very confident that he will always be able to weasel his way back into my heart. Divorcing doesn't really make him worry that he'll lose me because I think he believes that if he changes his mind, I will still be here.

You can best believe, I have already started a list of unacceptable behavior on his part that I overlooked in an effort to "save" the marriage. If we divorce, I'm not going to let any moss grow under my feet. And if he tries to come back so we can "date" I don't know that I will. For sure, I'm not going to 'date' him while we head for divorce.