(And just for the record, @alive, not everything I say here is meant to be taken literally -- this is a good place for playing with ideas because there are a lot of interesting and smart people here, like my esteemed colleague @Gypsy above.)
Hey SP, I'm not going to be offended by the implication there. I obviously hit a nerve. I don't think I was going with a literal interpretation I was more trying to illustrate how the assignment of blame and the extraction of "truth" is too subjective to be reliable. We probably agree.
And, I agree that beating oneself up is useless and we tend to polarize our Ss by being over-analytical in the face of their apparent lack of consciousness (that happened in the R too). So, ya, lightening up, letting it be, balancing the scales (at least in one's mind) a bit can help.
I also see so much WAS dissecting here that I doubt any of us really subscribe to the belief that they're awesome and we just s*ck. Obviously, the WAS is where he/she wants to be and may even be pre-wired to go.
I can't see worrying about changing something that might hypothetically appeal to the next Mrs. SP. You change the things that YOU feel you need to change for your own well being. The next Mrs. SP will fall in love with you where you are at that point.
