I want my Monkey and Sheep Back

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Thanks Trixi!

But they only change once they want to.

I am hoping that one day soon, he will realize his negative behaviors. I hope he decides to look back at all his past relationships and realise that they all failed, not just as a result of the women in them, but that he played a part as well.

Mostly, I just wanted you to step out of the situation a bit.

I tried to do this, because I do ask myself the same question. Why would I put up with his behavior? And like I said before, the only reason is because I love him and believe he can change. I don't want to be like him, he left me because he doesn't think I can change and that hurts to know that the person you love doesn't think you're capable of becoming a better person. If we were to ever get back together, however, I would not go into unless he wants to change.

This is YOUR time to stretch your wings, find yourself again. Break the patterns

It certainly is my time!! And I'm not going to worry about whether or not he's going to change his behaviors, because first of all, we're not together and don't even know if we will ever be back together, and secondly, I have spent too much time worrying about him. I have to focus on myself now and change myself for the better, not for him, not for anyone, only for me.

If you guys do reconcile, do you want to go back to what it was?

Never, I'd want to start off fresh and new.

Have you read any of the co-dependent books?

Not books but I have read up a lot about it on the internet.

you sound like you are making lots of progress- good job.

Thanks! I was so sick of feeling bad about myself and crying and crying over and over again. It just wasn't a good place for me to stay in for as long as I did. But I'm happy witht he progress I've made and look forward to finding inner peace and happiness.