Is the frustration because you both have different parenting styles? Is there anyway for both of you to accept that you each have your own unique thing to offer your children as parents?
Too bad the mood was not right with you when he tried to express a little bit of affection.
I would be frustrated as well with a spouse who only wants to be a parent to the kids and shows very little emotional attachment. Although I am certain some couples live this way (for their kids)for a lifetime...I understand that it is no where close to being enough for you.
What you need, you are not getting at this time. Not sure you will ever get it from this man. The mystery in all this is why? Why is are you guys unable to get a flicker of emotion, of togetherness. Not sure it is totally his fault but we are past the blame game at this point.
I hope your D is doing better and that you were able to enjoy some nice moments in spite of the less than ideal conditions.
No emotional, no physical attachement whatsoever... Also, it felt like prebomb era, where he would be chatty and happy with everyone else BUT me. He was borderline avoiding being alone with me, either that was for 2 minutes or 30 minutes. On the beach, in the room, at lunch...
He also told my GFs he tells everybody he knows, that are young parents, to focus on their R and spend time together etc...BUT he doesnt do that for us. He also said, he cant see himself leaving this job.
Coming to kiss me on his way out is a new trend of his. It's like he feels safe to kiss me since he is leaving... He was supposed to be relaxed and have some more jest to have a good time. Nope... A dead body around me, the perfect dad with the kids. Only I find that fake as well. You cant be our kids' good dad when you are driving this marriage to the end cause you "cant try". I am still furious. And last night I sent him an email saying I am sticking to my guns. No fake M for me. He is either in or out with all the consequences in not so good of a language. I just have to wait till 25/8 although I did question the use of that now as well... (except money of course). K
PS. He said he meant to buy the tickets for my GF and her kids travelling with me which was about 200 Euros but before he told me, she had already paid me back (we booked tickets online with my card). The same man, withheld 200 Euros from me to start getting his money back (that I asked for to pay my CC). Am I not worth the 200 as my GF does? He really is not stingy, on the contrary, he just does it with me as if "I can have anything I want anyway"... Grrrrr
3 painting orders waiting for me at my email. 150 euros... I guess I'll survive without him.
You'll do better than survive without him. There is a saying in America, "you can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear." Perhaps there is a similar saying in Greek. IMO, you need to stop feeling bad about this and move on in your life. You still have a lot of living to do, and he is preventing you from enjoying it.
I'm so disappointed in H. I too wonder at what he'll do when you file on the 25th. At this point, it seems as if it is your only option. No emotional or physical connection is an absolute killer.
You can't have a marriage w/out both of them. No exceptions.
Makes me sad that he is so lost and unaware of what is going on around him.
Hey M, what you describe doesnt surprise us all here I think anymore, but its sad to read. I just dont understand your H at all, but having heard what my bf has been saying all weekend, its like, I am sure there is a lot of immense confusion in him and he cant remember alot of the things that make you mad and doesnt know what the hell he is doing. Still, its been dragging on for 2/3 years now hasnt it and its not surprising you are very very sick of it.
Sorry I've not been around much.. I am for a bit this evening! Hugs to you Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
