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[wolverine1997]

Sandi2,

I want to thank you for your above posts. I spent the night thinking about what you said about nit-picking and control issues. A lot of what you said has merit. Above all else you made me remember and apply counsel that I have given to others many times in the past. As a minister I have always been taught to accept all counsel given to you and to find ways to make it fit. Even if you believe that the counsel given to you doesn't apply, keep it and store it because at some point it will apply.

I can definitely see ways to apply your counsel. Looking back over the years I can see areas where I have nit-picked and while I don't think that I am a controlling person by nature I can see how I can come across that way at times.

I think that I am having a hard time establishing boundaries and in actuality creating more problems. I have to try harder to look at things from her viewpoint which will be hard because her views are so erratic now. Many of them have radically changed over the last few years. I will try to be more observant of my actions and how they might affect her.

Thank you so very much for your insight.