Still Wondering How To Handle Things!!

[Sanderika]

Good Morning kissak,

You sound great!!! Your weekend away was just what you needed!!!

I am so happy for you!!!!

Your H is probably telling the truth, he does miss you. I am sure our Hs miss us. They miss the way we took care of them and all the other stuff we did because we love them and our families. Without us life is hard. We are/were good wives, the best.

I wonder about him saying it. You guys see each and talk to each other often so it must mean more. My H sees and talks to me, not as much as you guys seem to, and he never says he misses me. He has said he misses my cooking. To me that's trivia. Your H says he misses you. I would work with that to come up with something new. Maybe the new, you are already doing....you are acting further detached and aloof. Very interesting.

Yours, like mine seems to still be in the grips of MLC. I wonder what they really think about, I have been told by mine he thinks about the marriage all the time. I have a feeling yours does the same. Yours is more verbal. It's rare to get my H to express his feelings and thoughts.

I agree with you about living in misery, even in our turmoil from the sitches we seem to live better than they do. It's so funny because they created their own misery and they haven't fixed it they remain wallowed up to their eyeballs in it. We are not happy exactly, and I wouldn't call our lives miserable, isn't it wierd somehow?

I wonder if they really just want us to share the misery they exist with.....

kissak, I have given myself plenty of chances here to survive this and I have realized just recently (yes, it took a while) I am going to be fine. I have reached that place all the veterans tell us about. I have reached contentment and I am going to be just fine.....You are there too, I am sure. You sound great!!!

Have a wonderful week....

Sanderika