What I said on MJ’s thread is so true, but especially when it comes to a woman respecting her H. As a LBH, you must have your WAW’s respect before she can love you. She can’t be attracted (in a healthy way) to a man she doesn’t respect. I think that respect if the first target to shoot for and then the love will follow.
I've got nowhere near Sandi's experience or clout, but I want to second this. When H was in denial/lying about the drinking, blaming me for all the ills of the relationship and taking next to no responsibility for his own stuff, I lost a LOT of respect for him.
He's gained it back by never being a day late or a penny short in the child support, and even sending it a few days early the few times I've asked. So yes, I think a woman has to respect a man before she can love him - at least this woman does.
Last edited by Dia; 07/27/0905:12 AM.
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